Tight jeans?
Feeling obliged to accept a serving of Aunt Hattie’s tri-colored marshmallow salad, so you don’t hurt her feelings?
Grazing during meal preparation to the extent you’re not hungry for the meal itself but...you eat the meal any way?
The holidays are upon us. How do you celebrate the holidays without packing on 10, 20 pounds of comfort and joy? It’s not easy.
Food represents culture, heritage, family traditions, religious celebrations, and yes, comfort and joy. What foods do you turn to when you are sick? When you smell a turkey roasting in the oven, what emotions come to mind? Do you still have an affection for your favorite candy as a kid? What kind of cake do you have on your birthday? Food carries powerful associations that stay with us for years. Food can remind us of people we love and closeness with friends and family. You can separate all the wonderful things food means to you from its caloric and nutritional values, but I’m not sure I’d want to.
However, there’s no denying that with more celebrating comes more eating. And usually the “more eating” doesn’t include multiple servings of raw vegetables. You want to celebrate the deliciousness of the holidays, yet you don’t want to have to buy new jeans in January. Is there anything to help avoid the January Jeans?
I don’t advocate dieting to lose weight unless you have a medical condition. Diets rarely work and don’t address the underlying issues for overeating. I advocate for creating your own boundaries with food. No one person has your history, your tastes, and your associations with food. You know what foods you love and what foods you hate. So, I can recommend some boundaries, but my experiences tell me that everyone must define her/his own. Try these out and see which ones work for you. If none work, keep trying.
- Commit to define your own eating experiences.
- Eliminate empty calories from your diet. Empty calories are foods that you won’t miss when you take them away. Can you eat your salads without croutons? If so, great. If not, keep the croutons and keep looking for empty calories.
- Keep foods you can't resist out of your home and your workspace. Don’t buy them “just for the kids.” The kids can live a fine life without the presence of your trigger foods.
- Eat only what you like. Don’t feel obliged to take food because it’s offered to you, because your Aunt Hattie is a nice gal, or because it's there.
- Stop eating when you’re full (whether you’re at the counter top or at the table). You don’t have to eat a meal because everyone else is. Sit down and enjoy the conversation.
- If you overindulge, move on.
- Exercise. Nothing new here, but if you make exercise as routine as brushing your teeth, it helps to feel better about almost anything.
Celebrating the holidays with special foods is normal. Redefining your relationship with these special foods, so you feel powerful and in charge is good health.
Shelly Watkins
3:59 pm on Saturday, November 5, 2011
Thanks for the tips and love your blog! The holidays, here we go...
Ann O'Neill, LLPC
4:50 pm on Sunday, November 6, 2011
Thanks, Shelly! Yes, and here we go!
Rachel
7:45 pm on Saturday, November 5, 2011
Fantastic insight. I'll be sure to keep these things in mind during the holidays.
Ann O'Neill, LLPC
4:51 pm on Sunday, November 6, 2011
Good for you, Rachel. Thanks for posting.
Pippalotta
2:55 pm on Sunday, November 6, 2011
Great advice! I'll keep it in mind for the holidays. Would love to hear more about Aunt Hattie. With a signature dish like tri-color marshmallow salad, she must have a number of dysfunctions lurking in her kitchen pantry. How does she deal with family tensions during the holidays in an election year?
Ann O'Neill, LLPC
4:58 pm on Sunday, November 6, 2011
Pippalotta, like most of my relatives, Aunt Hattie was brimming with character. Like most of the female relatives on my mom's side, Aunt Hattie was a great shot with a pistol. Really.
I think you've hit on something that I should write about - family tensions during the holidays. I've already submitted my post for this Friday, but please check back. I think it's a great idea. Thank you!
Pippalotta
5:29 am on Monday, November 7, 2011
Looking forward to the post about Aunt Hattie, family tensions and pistols.
Eugene
9:44 am on Monday, November 7, 2011
Ann, Thanks for your great tips.
Ann O'Neill, LLPC
2:46 pm on Monday, November 7, 2011
You're welcome, Eugene. Thank you for posting.
mary thiel
6:20 pm on Monday, November 7, 2011
Great ideas Ann, especially appreciate hunting and removing the empty calories- less cream in coffee, no mayo on sandwich and let's all vow not to use our kids as a reason to indulge in our addiction to sugar! Write on Ann, write on...
Ann O'Neill, LLPC
6:59 pm on Monday, November 7, 2011
Yes, Mary. Have a half a hamburger bun instead of a whole - every time. Mustard can be a great substitute for mayo. Thanks for posting.
Diane Andersen
4:15 pm on Friday, November 11, 2011
Ann, great post and excellent advice about "creating your own boundaries." I don't need another list of dos and don'ts when it comes to food. I know white carbs = bad, low fat protein = good, but recognizing the associations we have with different foods and the emotional issues involved with eating is really the key. It sounds pathetic to admit that I've actually eaten things I don't like just to please other people - even marshmallow salads. And yes, I despise croutons. And, I actually loathe salad dressing. So I'll have my salad undressed next time. Might make me feel a bit better about being undressed myself! Blog on girl!
Ann O'Neill, LLPC
6:48 pm on Friday, November 11, 2011
Cheers to never eating marshmallow salads, three bean casserole, or Aunt Mame's Fudge and Hamburger Surprise again!